Do's and don’ts of gifting intimate products in a new relationship

Let’s be honest—gifting in a new relationship is already tricky. Add intimate products to the mix, and it’s a whole new level of "Should I… or should I not?"
Whether it’s your first Valentine's Day together, a cute monthly anniversary, or just a random “thinking of you” surprise, intimate gifts can go either way—they can spice things up or totally backfire. So, before you throw a blindfold and couple card game into your cart, take a breath. Let’s go over some simple do’s and don’ts to help you get it right.
Do’s
1. Do understand your partner’s comfort level
Before giving any intimate gift, make sure your partner is comfortable with such topics. Everyone has different comfort zones. Some people are open about intimacy, while others take time. You can notice this by how they react to such talks or jokes.
2. Do keep the gift fun and light
The purpose of such a gift should be playful, not serious. A condom gift pack with quirky packaging or flavored condoms can be fun and exciting. Similarly, sex chocolate can add a surprise element and make your partner smile.
Choose products that are made with love and creativity, not just something that looks too bold or vulgar.
3. Do pick the right time
Timing matters. If you just started dating, wait for a little while. Once you both have shared a few deep talks and there’s a clear bond, that’s a better time. Special days like Valentine's, birthdays, or an anniversary can also be good moments to share such gifts.
Don’t give intimate products on the first or second date. Let the relationship grow first.
4. Do make it part of a bigger gift
You don’t have to give only intimate gifts. You can add them to a hamper. For example, include a cute handwritten note, some normal chocolates, a candle, and maybe a small toy. This makes the gift thoughtful, not just sexual.
5. Do choose quality products
If you are giving something as personal, make sure it's from a trusted brand. These are things that come in close contact with the body. So safety and hygiene are very important.
Read reviews, check the expiry date, and pick items that are skin-safe and approved.
Don’ts
1. Don’t make it awkward
Avoid gifting these items in front of friends, family, or in a public place. This might embarrass your partner. Keep it private and respectful. It should feel like a personal gesture, not a joke.
2. Don’t push if they’re not ready
If your partner doesn’t seem ready to receive such gifts, don’t force it. Intimacy should be mutual. Never use such gifts to send a message or speed up the relationship. It can backfire and spoil the bond.
3. Don’t make it the first gift
Giving an intimate or something too personal gift item as the very first gift can send the wrong message. It might look like you are only interested in physical intimacy, not emotional connection. Always begin with general gifts—books, chocolates, perfumes, or something based on their hobbies.
Later, when the bond grows stronger, intimate gifts can feel more natural.
4. Don’t ignore consent
Consent doesn’t only apply to physical contact. Even gifting something intimate requires consent in its own way. If you think it might make your partner uncomfortable, it’s better to talk first. Sometimes, small talk can avoid big misunderstandings.
5. Don’t gift something you wouldn’t use yourself
It’s simple—only gift products that you’d feel comfortable using or receiving yourself. Whether it’s sex chocolate or something to wear like lingerie, check it out first. A gift feels special only when there’s real thought behind it.
Conclusion
Gifting intimate products in a new relationship can be a sweet way to build connection—but only if done with care. Keep it playful, respectful, and tuned in to your partner’s vibe.
And hey, if you’re not sure? You can always ask. There’s something very attractive about someone who’s thoughtful enough to say, “Would you be into something like this sometime?”
So go on—gift with confidence. Just don’t forget the golden rule: it’s not about the product, it’s about how it makes your partner feel.